The sloth of the animal kingdom is a slow moving furry little tree creature. The word sloth is associated with laziness and being physically and emotionally inactive. So in terms of love you might say that entering into that “just a little too comfortable” zone is committing the sin of sloth in your relationship!
Remember your first date? He arrived to collect you in a clean crisp shirt wearing a bucket of aftershave, looking smart and clean shaven with hair that was brylcreemed to prefection. And the girl that greeted him at the door in a tea dress was wearing her hair down in loose waves with subtle make up and just enough perfume to seduce his senses without overpowering them. Posh and Becks would not hold a candle to this pair!
Fast forward three years and you’ve had numerous more dates, have met each other’s families and friends, been on a holiday together and even gone to the extreme of updating your relationship status on facebook! You’re possibly even living together or at the very least having sleepovers at each other’s places. This relationship is SOLID! You are so comfortable around each other that little by little you subconsciously start to neglect the preening and pruning that used to be your beauty regime. You used to greet him with lingerie and a smile but now that he has his own key he just lets himself in and makes his way into the sitting room where you’re lying on the sofa watching Friends in baggy sweat pants and an old Guns n Roses t-shirt you’ve had since you were a teenager. He snuggles up beside you on the sofa and you can tell he’s happy to see you but you haven’t shaved your legs this week and you’re still a bit full after that pizza you ate so you really couldn’t be bothered. If you ignore it for long enough it will go away and if that doesn’t work you have recorded “one born every minute” so will put that on as a sure fire passion killer! And it’s worked!
He’s not exactly Mr Immaculate at the minute either! You suspect that those boxers you can see peering out from over the rim of his trousers are the same ones you saw him in yesterday and you also suspect that if you were to kiss him at the minute you’d end up with a rash from his two day old stubble! Neither of you are a prize pig fit for market today!
It’s very easy to slip into this state of living and very hard to get out of! It’s refreshing to be around someone you can be comfortable with but if you’re slobbing about in your pj’s you’re hardly going to feel sexy so it’s inevitable that your desire to be intimate will hit a sharp decline! You’ll have plenty of time in your later years for companionship but you’re not likely to get that far if you’ve all but distinguished any flames of passion in your relationship! Now I’m not saying we should be getting up at dawn to make ourselves presentable for our other halves before they wake up (which was actual advice given in a ladies magazine in the 60′s!!) but a little bit of effort wouldn’t go amiss if even if it is just for yourself! You don’t want to end up being one of those people that is described as someone who has really let themselves go! (definition;used to be quite attractive but now the tide wouldn’t take you out!)
Do you ever see Posh and Becks looking less than immaculate? Being pristine is their trademark and has kept them ranking high as one of the hottest celebrity couples for over a decade. It’s also helped fund their luxurious lifestyle with lucrative advertising and fashion deals! Through all their ups and downs they have remained a team and beaten all the odds against celebrity couples staying together. Devoted parents, devoted to each other and great role models they are the extremely attractive poster family for good old fashioned family values!
So if you’re sitting there reading this looking a little shabby and you have a while until your partner comes through the door why not go dust off the fancy frillies and make it an evening to remember!
Tune in next week for another deadly sin!